Life doesn’t always play out in one long story. It’s more like a TV series. Some changes are just a new episode. A different challenge at work. A fresh project. A shift in our daily routine. The cast is the same. The setting is familiar. It’s still the same season of...
So much of modern life is designed to reward extrinsic motivation. Grades at school. Performance reviews at work. Likes and shares on social media. External motivators can push us to achieve goals, meet deadlines, or learn new skills. But when they dominate, we risk...
We have the capacity to infuse or drain energy. When we walk into a room. Join a team. Tackle a project. We can lift others up… or pull them down. Sometimes it’s intentional. Sometimes we don’t even realize it’s happening. My Perspective This isn’t just about if we...
In my last post, I wrote about life scripts. The hidden rules and beliefs that quietly guide our choices. Scripts like “Always say yes” or “Rest is lazy.” When we flip those scripts, we reclaim agency. Yet, even with that, we encounter another layer. Scripts rarely...
We all live by scripts. Not the kind read by actors. The ones we each carry inside. Scripts are the rules and beliefs we picked up along the way. From family. From school. From work. From culture. They become the hidden codes that drive our choices. Sometimes we know...
Agency Life. Defined as: The demanding and fast-paced work-life reality of long hours. Tight deadlines. And constant client revisions. Often leading to burnout. I lived it. I also saw it when I was on the corporate side. In fact, I think it can happen with any...
Yesterday, we talked about the three cycles of confidence building. One moment where we can leverage these cycles is when experiencing job loss. Even when part of a big company reduction, we can doubt our worth. What are we good at? Why would another company want to...
Confidence. Sometimes we have it, sometimes we don’t. As we gain more experience, our confidence grows. Events along our career path can impact our confidence…both negatively and positively. There are three cycles that we can consider as we look to build confidence....
Wow. 1000 days of writing. I can’t believe it’s been nearly 3 years. Each morning...every morning... I’ve written a blog post. 1000 days x 30 minutes (some more some less) a day = 500 hours. Initially, I set out to help busy professionals deal with daily challenges....
I’ve always been the one who can’t watch a scary movie. They give me nightmares. I’m not a fan of the dark. Darkness and shadows scare me. I imagine what might be lurking. Yet, last week, I had a realization. I also love the beauty in darkness and what is hidden in...
A newsletter hit my inbox recently that resonated in so many ways. Khe Hy was sending a note to let readers know he was sunsetting his email & podcast. I couldn’t find the exact post online, but I did find his blog site here. There were three elements of his post...
I came across an article by Karen Covy covering 7 steps to navigating a Lifequake. I was drawn in to idea #3 – Shed It: Give up Old Mindsets, Routines, and Ways of Being. In this section, she talks about three approaches to creating a new structure to our lives. The...
The Gallup team has kicked off another podcast season digging into each of the 34 themes. This season the theme is how to create collaborative partnerships at work. The short episodes help us understand what each CliftonStrength theme brings and needs. Moving from...
What if your next prescription wasn’t a pill, but a paintbrush? A walk in the woods. A dance class. A volunteer shift. That’s the idea behind The Connection Cure by Julia Hotz. She explores “social prescriptions” as real tools for healing. There are five of these...
A few weeks ago, I heard about the book Hate the Game on a podcast. The author, Daryl Fairweather, was highlighting some key points from the book and I was hooked. The book focuses on how economic theories come into play in our daily life. Throughout the book she...
We hear about grit. The need to stick with something through the tough times to reap the benefits. Yet not everything we do will work. How do we know when to persist in the messy middle and when to pivot? I heard a good suggestion from a podcast where Pat Flynn...
We’ve all been there. We start a habit or a project and after a while, we don’t see results. How do we figure out if we should quit and move on or persist for possible impact? If we persist and it fails, there are sunk costs. Yet, we likely learned something. If we...
In a meeting the other day, someone made this comment: “I’m trying to fit into a Haiku” – Guy My first reaction was a laugh. He clearly made the point. He is working to put his content into someone else’s framework. A structure he didn’t design. And I could...
I’ve been hearing a lot lately about the importance of meaning and mattering. How the two have an impact on our overall wellbeing. We want our lives to have meaning. We need to feel what we do matters. They sound similar. But they’re not the same. What Is Meaning?...
Sunday is supposed to be a day of rest. But for many of us, it’s a day of dread. The to-do list feels like it’s growing, not shrinking. The Sunday Scaries show up. The day becomes a catch-all for everything we didn’t finish last week. What if, instead of defaulting...
I first heard about Becoming You through podcasts and was intrigued by Suzy Welch’s focus on helping people discover their “Area of Transcendence.” The book is based on her class at NYU Stern School of Business and explores how values, aptitudes, and economically...